Happy Valentine’s Day!
It’s the time of year that we celebrate love. For some couples, that means thinking about moving in together.
If you’re one of them, congrats! You’re taking a major step in your relationship.
Moving in together is an exciting and scary time. Before moving day comes, make sure you’re completely ready.
Why move in together
It’s the ultimate test for your relationship. You’ll understand each other on a deeper level, and get to know one another’s quirks.
If you support one another, living together can be an excellent experience. When you live together, you’ll be able to push each other to be your best every day.
Moving in together will also ease the burden of your busy schedule. It’s challenging to plan nights ahead when both of you have busy lives. Splitting time between two homes, packing overnight bags, and going from one home to another can take a lot out of you. Not to mention the time spent on the road, which is a major drag on energy and resources, when you’re traveling back and forth between your homes.
Talk things through
Let’s start with the most challenging part of moving in together: talking through your plan and asking hard questions.
Begin with whose name will be on the lease. It’s a difficult conversation. Putting just one person’s name on the lease may seem like an admission that perhaps things won’t work out. Recording both names makes both of you responsible for the rent and upkeep of your apartment, even if something goes wrong.
There’s no right or wrong answer, but it’s important to discuss and come to an understanding with your partner.
Go through house rules during this stage as well. When is it okay to have people over? When do you need alone time? Do you have to share your schedule with each other?
Discuss each question so there’s no confusion after moving day.
It’s also important to form an understanding of who is paying for what. Talking about finances is stressful but don’t worry, we’ll get back to that later.
These questions can be challenging, and difficult to talk about, but they’re necessary. You’ll come through it with a better understanding of each other and a stronger foundation for your relationship.
Inventory your stuff
Here’s the important first step of planning your move itself. When combining two people’s possessions, there’s likely going to be overlap.
Start a list that you can share and start recording what you have. Google Docs or Google Sheets work well because you can both make and see changes.
If you both have a microwave, but one is newer and more effective, take the better of the two. The same goes for furniture and other household items.
Make sure you sell any unnecessary items before you move. Moving what you don’t need just makes moving day more stressful and more difficult.
Figure out what you need
Once you know what you have, it’
s time to figure out what you need.
Start a new document or a new tab to start tallying things neither of you have. When you’re both aware of what you need, you’ll both be able to look for items and find good deals.
Get everything you need ahead of time so you can immediately start making your new house or apartment into a home.
This is where teamwork is needed the most. You’ll each spend plenty of time in your new home, so it’s important there’s something there for both of you.
Allow for an individual space for each of you. It could be a spot to hang your art on the wall, a reading corner, or even just a corner of the living room for your things.
You will have to make sacrifices, but that’s okay. If one of you absolutely can’t stand a piece of art or a specific item, you may have to be okay with getting rid of it.
It’s a home together, and compromise is key.
Finances can be one of the most difficult topics to talk about when you’re moving in together. However, it’s vital to do before moving in together.
Rent, cable, internet, utilities, there’s a lot to pay for. You’ll need to figure out a budget, and decide who is paying for what.
You could split costs 50-50, or split them according to the funds each of you has to contribute. This comes down to your preference as a couple, which makes it very important to talk about.
It’s important to overcome the discomfort of talking about money so you can both be on the same page.
How to choose a home
Start by writing down your list of wants and needs for your new home. They could range from location, in-unit laundry, central air, or anything else important to you. In addition, make sure you write down any deal breakers.
Now bring your lists together and see what overlaps and what’s different. Talk through your differences and discuss your deal breakers.
Once you’ve decided on your budget and wants, look for the location that meets your needs.
Work together and be understanding
Moving in together will be a growth opportunity for you as a couple. You’ll have to be compromising, and work together to make sure both of you are happy.
Remember to be understanding of your partner, too. Moving is stressful, and moving in with someone can bring out a lot of emotion. Understand where they’re coming from and work together through what can be a challenging, but rewarding situation.
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